CON-FUSION !!

Sorry totally disappeared from this space in my life for quite some time.Last few weeks have been very tough in terms of the stress levels and the kind of thought process that has been going thru my mind.There were days when I was too excited and bouncing with energy all around and there are days where I have been thinking about various things in life......

I was in the above state for quite sometime ...Now things seem to be clear .I know it was only a passing phase and now its slowly started to sink.Nevertheless I love this current state of absolute clarity ,which is bliss to me .I am so happy for what I am and for what i will be in the future.


Exciting times ahead is what I can say after the roller coaster  .. I completey love the way my life s taking turns  and the way I have choose to lead my life





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Peace of Mind - Part I

I am at times perplexed with the various people preaching about peace of mind.I always used to think what the heck ??? cant people even do such a small thing in life .As I grew up, I realized that this was the most daunting task that only a few selected individuals could have and the rest struggle to have or even understand the beauty of this state.

This is a no thought state and is very rare for common people ,people who donot perform any kind of meditation,yoga or any of the spiritual practices ,its not possible.But I always it feel that every one of us has to experience in life ...We need to do everything in life as far as experiencing it is concerned.Its like doing everything in life but postponing this very important aspect in life.


Yoga and meditation should be taught to kids and this should be regularly practiced all through life for physical and mental balance in life.I always remember the elders in the society always say : Are you by teaching all these things trying to make our kids sanyasi's????? I do not understand why most of us donot look at life in a compartmental way ???   

In this fast paced modern world today people are again realizing the importance of mental peace ,corporates have started having counselling sessions,art of living classes,yoga sessions for its employees.These are agian gaining momentum from the stress level going in ones life.We today have all become result oriented in lfe rather than method oriented doing things against the nature.We all want results   

There are many definitions of meditation ,but I would expalin as an internal quest for the following things : 
Who we are and Whats our purpose of life ???? Meditation gives us mental health and improves our life style,which is important for a better living .I personally think more than wealth ,is we really can give these good life and principles to our kids,thats the best they can get.We also need to ensure that we follow of these in our life to tell them and teach them.The importance of these are not in by any one in prime youth age ,but only a few can realize it early ,who benefit a lot. 


It high time ,that we realize the importance of these and follow it religiously as we do things in our career .God and god reaching methods always should not start in old age as we do in India.We need to have the gratitude to GOD for having given us what is required in time .As we thank people for the instant help they give us when necessary,similarly we also need to thank GOD .

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EMOTIONAL POT !!!

Life is full of  compromises,conditions,situations,promises,hobbies,likes,dislikes.Well I would say,Life is like a mobile package you don't get everything that you want.Sorry no customization is required,so you compromise or rather adjust to what is available.



On the contrary , Life is a very beautiful journey on how we react to events happening in our lives.We always need to move ahead in life,relationships,career no matter what ever difficulties,crises,problems or set backs we encounter.Every one comes into this world with limited tears and unlimited happiness.We tend to forget over a period of time that GOD,The Almighty has given mankind a very special gift - To forget things.


I don't intend to say that we need to forget every event in our life.But it would be nice if we could move ahead with time leaving behind the unwanted events which occurred in our lives. We all come in to this world with a pot in side us.It is similar to our belly and I would like to term it as Emotional Pot ...


The emotional pot is of a standard size and all the feelings that we generate during our life are filled in this.It is necessary to have an outlet for this pot,which GOD has given it to us in the form of our emotions.It necessary for each one of us to empty this pot
periodically to ensure that we have healthy relationships, good thoughts,positive emotions and a great life to live.If we are always happy ,our face is radiating ,glowing or bubbly.If we are sad we tend to have a frowned face,dull and no life...


How can we empty this POT ? Its a general tendency of every human to remember all the good things that have occurred and also the bad things that have happened.The best to clean this pot is to constantly making an effort to start forgetting them in phases or once for all
say Shift+Delete,which will help us feeling .If this cleaning is not done regularly ,we tend to accumalate this over a period of time,which will result in EMOTIONAL OUTBURST.


Emotional outburst results in frustration,fights,strained relations,outburst of anger and MOOD swings.All these feelings tend to create a major imbalance in life or change in lifestyle.


Well end of the day we all have one life and one chance to make the
best of our life.


Lets try making this a better place to live ...


Aditya

Its Hard to Say Goodbye!!!!

I have been going to the airport to give my family and friends a send off for the last 10 yrs and have never felt like this before .I have actually started feeling during my last 3visits to airport.I realised today that I can't do this for a while..Today I had been to the airport to drop  my cousin(Sasi) , who was off to India and IT WAS DIFFICULT , mostly because he was leaving to India and I miss home a lot these days . I broke down as soon as he walked past the security and was invisible. I then realised am not going to see him for more than a month and he was travelling to my motherland, Karmabhoomi , my Swades (On an entirely different note, remember SRKs dialogue in Chak de ,while training the girls he says I-N-D-I-A)It just rings a bell in my ears. Woahhhhh !!!!


OMG I can't get over this for a while now ...I am sure of THAT !!

I was in a similar situation when my wife was travelling to India twice , yes twice , once in January , for her Visa and then in April, for a wedding.As I was on the way to airport with her  I was all fine and happy that she gets to travel and all that blah blah .. but suddenly it hits me that not only would I be staying alone here ,but also she gets to go to I N D I A  ...Truly what people say is rite, u miss the place you love more when ur away from it.Perhaps we aware of how attached we are with certain things when we are away ....sometimes I miss my family back in India so badly that I just want to drop everything right now , as they are and be with the family.thankfully my wife does not disagree..But we really cant do that... I wish I could be Superman and  cross continents with in no time.


I guess every one in their life goes through this phase where they feel all homesick and Indiasick and over a period of time get habituated to it.I wonder whether we develop a thick skin towards these feelings or are we just too shy of admitting this in life ??

I still remember the first time when my wife travelled from India to get here , all alone for her studies .We were all emotional in the airport...It really took some time to get adjusted to digest the fact.When I travelled to join her a couple of months later ,I was even more emotional than the others at the airport.The feeling of meeting our loved ones after a long period is in itself a great moment of joy and excitement.I wonder how people can stay away from their loved ones for long periods and don't meet them for years together.I personally know know of people who moved to US 7 yrs back and have not visited INDIA till date.I wonder how they live without visiting their family and friends ???
Sorry I am not talking of those who despite staying in the same city don't find time to meet


I must admit Its hard to stay out of INDIA without visiting our family and friends for long intervals

Random Thots

It is one of those time in our lives when we feel down for more than one reasons and we go into the analysis/questioning mode.I mean we introspect , retrospect,think,dwell about a few circumstances or situations which we had reacted or acted to.The decisions which we have taken are ...the implications of those decisions...life after that decision.


During this whole process of pondering or introspection we also think about the choice we had in lives at various times and give those choices a thought.Had we made that decision how life would have been today.Trust me life would definitely be different with that second decision but probably the experience we had with this one might not be guaranteed.There would always be this choices in life to make our decisions .The best part of these testing times is the actual character of the person.We keep hearing that we need to learn from others experiences ,which is partly rite .Situations ,experiences,people,time might all be the same but the individuals and their priorities are completely different.

There is always a battle among most of us about the kind of decisions we have to make and the results to it.I think I would like to give full credit to the current gen for this clarity or independence.I would like to mention that this is independence comes when there is abundance of information available on the subject matter.Today we need anything we just say "GOOGLE" and get all the info.


Must say life today is far simpler and complicated in many ways ...Things are available at a click today.
While drafting this post I vaguely remember reading this some where " It depends how you want to go to the graveyard(final destination) either in neatly ironed clothes or want to try everything in life make your clothes dirty with wine in one hand and chocolate in the other hand


What ever decision you make in life never repent and stand by it come what may.

Road To Success !!!

Shayari...

Yu bekarar karke humein mat chodiye...Hum tho khud ko aapke hawale kar chale...
Dil ne kaha jalwe husn yaar ke..laaya hain kaun nihe zameen pe..


Humpe ishq karne ke liye zor mat daliye ..hum bhi is mod se guzre hain
Dekhne walo ke yeh na lagna chaye hi aap ko humse ishq hain.


Hamara dil tho ek panchi jo is dal se us dal pe udtha hian
Magar woh hain jo har phool ko apna ghar bana lete hain.

Don't Repent In Life ...

When you really need something, 

it will go away from you.

Try to catch it.
You will not get it again, if you let it go now.

If you didn't try, then don't repent.
Because you didn't try, when you had the chance to hold it...

Its time ...we realise it

Its time we treat them as individuals and look beyond the boundary of our relationships....

I happen to meet an old friend of mine during my last visit to London .Its been over 10 yrs we met. Can’t actually describe my frame of mind when I met him, he was one of my friends friend. I met him during my Inter days and soon he became a good friend of mine .Later on both became busy with our lives and dint remain in  touch. He moved to London 7yrs back and is settled here.

I always looked at him as an old friend of mine and dint realise that we both  are completely different individuals from our last meeting. We grow up and have our own individual identities which have to be respected by everyone.

A couple of days later a thought struck me which made me restless and also inspired me to write this post .I was wondering that n the cloud of our relationship with the person we often forget their individuality and behave ...All through the years we treat people on the relations we share with them : wife, Mom, dad, sister, brother, Uncle, Aunt, friend, son, daughter...whatever relation it may...but the fact is that before we share a relation with them they are individuals in their own place and we need to respect them for what they are. 

Life is too short to judge people depending on our relationship rather than knowing the actual person .We share many relationships in our life and also need to respect them to cherish memories

Life is too short to really bother about what people think ....Its important to live our life on our terms but also ensure that we donot shrug away from our responsibilities .....


Live every act fully, as if it were your last. 

Morning Blues ...

Its really was a strange feeling when I woke up this morning from bed...I am an early riser and like to complete my morning routine and be ready to go.The alarm rang at 5:30 am and I switched it off ..I woke up some time later when I could hear a phone ring in a feeble sound to a shrill one.It was my wife's phone ringing(India Calls).Then I woke up .


But all of a sudden I realised that the morning was completely different from the previous ones for years that passed by...I am still puzzled as to what that feeling was ...Can't describe in words was some what strange....


Let me try recollecting it and put it down

GRATITUDE !!!!

Gratitude keeps us centered and wards off jealousy and negativity. 

Here are five little things we can do each day to nourish our sense of gratitude: 

1. Choose your friends wisely. If you strive to be spiritually strong, supportive, empowering, intelligent, energetic, and positive, seek those characteristics in others. 

Help your friends develop more positive traits by living those positive traits yourself. Know what kind of friends will help you nurture your soul, and set out to find some. 

2. Help your friends cultivate gratitude. Before you say anything about a friend's situation, remember that everyone's situation is unique. I've seen it happen to myself and to my friends. They'll be perfectly happy until someone tells them they're being mistreated. Suddenly, they're upset. 

Don't let your friends wield such power, and work to avoid wielding such power yourself. 

Day by day, hour by hour, make a goal to stop complaining about your life. Make a pact with your friends to cut the complaints from your conversations. 

3. Give the gift of gratitude to your children. Help your children to be satisfied with the simple things while giving them the innate power and ability to achieve whatever they want in life...by living in such a way yourself. 

4. Say "Thank You." Whom in your life do you appreciate? Let them know, whether it's your mom, your kids, your friends, your husband, your child's daycare provider or the helpful woman behind the cosmetics counter. 

A heartfelt "thank you" often does the trick. Make it a habit and your attention will suddenly turn to all the things people do for you. 

Also, write thank you notes regularly - not just after a gift exchange - and be mindful of all the ways you show your appreciation by the things you do in return. 

Another idea: Spend 15 minutes writing a letter to your children. In this note, tell them how much you love them, why you're thankful for them, and all the ways they have enriched your life. This can be something you give them now or after they have grown. 

5. Be mindful of the little things. Today, strive to be aware of all the aspects of your personal, professional, and family life for which you are thankful. 

Take a few minutes today to appreciate nature. Go for a walk and notice only those things that are beautiful. Whether you focus on the stars above, a distant mountain range, or the cottonwood tree in your backyard, try to notice the details. Give thanks for the beauty that surrounds us. 

Oprah Winfrey and Sarah Ban Breathnach, author of Simple Abundance, speak often of the importance of a Gratitude Journal, in which, at the end of each day, you record at least five things you're grateful for. 

Regardless of whether you write down these items, spend some time each day to focus on the little things in your life that make each day special. Perhaps it's your child's toothless grin. A warm home. Delicious food enjoyed with family. 

Together, let's work on focusing on what we have - not on what we don't have - and all the ways we can help one another have more gratitude for the gift of life.


Lets be grateful to everything that we have in life ... 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!!!

They are special days in ones life...u'r showered with wishes,blessings,greetings,gifts,cakes,messages,e-mails from
our near n dear and also from people who have heard of you..
Birthdays are to be celebrated to make us refresh our memories over the years and make this year more special than the previous ones.

Happy Birrrrthday to Youuuu,
Happy Birrrrthday to Youuuu,
Happy Birrrrthday Dear Harsha ,
Happy Birrrrthday to Youuuu! 

A few years back, not so long ago, heaven and earth erupted into a major celebration with the news of your impending adventure into this very time and space. You see, someone like you doesn't come along all that often. In fact, there's never been a single one like you, nor is there ever ANY possibility that another will come again. You're an Angel among us. Someone, whose eyes see what no others will EVER see, whose ears hear what no others will EVER hear, and whose perspective and feelings will NEVER, ever be duplicated. Without YOU, the Universe, and ALL THAT IS, would be sadly less than it is.

Quite simply:

You're the kind of person,
Who's hard to forget,
A one-in-a-million
To the people you've met.
Your friends are as varied
As the places you go,
And they all want to tell you
In case you don't know:
That you make a big difference
In the lives that you touch,
By taking so little
And giving so much!

You are so AWESOME! For your birthday, friends and angels from every corner of the Universe, including buddies you didn't know you had, will be with you to wish you the HAPPIEST of days and an exciting new year in time and space. You won't be alone!


The above message really moved me to tears when I read it .....Its really nice to make people feel special on their BIRTHDAYS....its their day 


I believe firmly that ....the more number of people wish them,the more faster their dreams  come true....


TRY IT ...IT WORKS 

School Days ....

I am sure that the school days are one of the best memories for everyone.I have a few .. actually loads of fond memories of my school days ,I was watching a movie called Surya S/o Krishnan ,directed by the famous director from Kollywood( thats the lame name for Tamil Cinema btw)a couple of days ago and LOVED the movie. I was remembering all my college and school days.
Its always fun to meet all our schoolmates and go down the memory lane with them.Truly going to be a fun time when we all have a re union .I have been in touch with a few mates of mine ove the past few years.To name a few : Sai ,Kaushik,Nimish,Indira not to forget Surender and  a few others.Sai ,Nimish and myself we were the last benchers and always our teachers favourites (most wanted in every class) .Sai has been in touch withover the years even after schooling . During a small gathering in hyderabad met Karthik,Indira and Surender. Then when I moved to Bangalore for an year I met Kaushik ,was fun we used to play TT on the terrace top.Sai also came in a couple of times to play along with us.Then moved to Mumbai and lost touch with all.Thru FB and orkut found most of them in my group again.


About my school days it was fun all the time.Waiting whether our teachers have come to the school,will we have the class ? To name a few instances :

• We once in our 9th standard were asked to draw the heart on the black board and the whole class was standing since we could not and  then entered our favourite Mr.Uncle Sir ...guess what happened then...
• Chalk piece fights were the best during breaks and were always by the Head mistress for this ...
• We always we waiting to see if our Physics lecturer was absent to freak ....
• Not to forget our PT sir who always favoured the girls
• Our Social mam was one of the coolest teachers
• English mam was like OMG the toughest.
• Maths Sir ,who threw what he  had in hand in the name of discipline
• Biology was taught by our Head Mistress and not a class has gone without punishments
• Lunch time was the best time where the reservations for others boxes used to happen during the third period of the day
• Exams were always boring but some how we managed to slide though to the next class
• Parent teachers meeting ,one plat form for the months complaints
• Karate classes were again one more session
• We always had our maths classes after the social classes and was fun when our maths faculty used to walk in wantedly .....
•  Forget to mention that FLAMES was also part of our routine along with BOOK CRICKET during the science classes..
• Chemistry is an interesting subject but our madam put us to sleep during this class...

This visit to Hyd, I am planning for a re union with all school mates to visit our school  ....

BETTER RELATIONSHIPS

I happen to read this article and found it interesting and needy for all of us in todays world.

Three Words That Make Relationships Better

Three-Word Phrases, can be tools to help develop every relationship. 

There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships.

The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.

~    Let me help:Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.

~  I understand you:People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many  little ways - that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.

~  I respect you:Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal.  If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends.  This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

~  I miss you:Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other “I miss you.”  This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.  Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say “I miss you.”

~  Maybe you’re right:This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument.  The implication when you say “maybe you’re right” is the humility of admitting, “maybe  I’m wrong”.  Let’s face it.  When you have an argument with someone,  all you normally do is solidify the other person’s point of view. They, or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you.  Saying “maybe you’re right” can open the door to explore the subject more.  You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the other person. 

~ Please forgive me:Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

~  I thank you:Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don’t take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of  friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

~  Count on me:A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship.  It is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating “you can count on me.”

~   I’ll be there:If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase “I’ll be there.” Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us.  We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

~  Go for it:We are all unique individuals. Don’t try to get your friends to conform to your ideals.  Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you.  God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams.  Tell them to “go for it.”

~  I love you:Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person’s deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse,  your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words: “I love you.”  Love is a choice.  You can love even when the feeling  is gone