Its time ...we realise it

Its time we treat them as individuals and look beyond the boundary of our relationships....

I happen to meet an old friend of mine during my last visit to London .Its been over 10 yrs we met. Can’t actually describe my frame of mind when I met him, he was one of my friends friend. I met him during my Inter days and soon he became a good friend of mine .Later on both became busy with our lives and dint remain in  touch. He moved to London 7yrs back and is settled here.

I always looked at him as an old friend of mine and dint realise that we both  are completely different individuals from our last meeting. We grow up and have our own individual identities which have to be respected by everyone.

A couple of days later a thought struck me which made me restless and also inspired me to write this post .I was wondering that n the cloud of our relationship with the person we often forget their individuality and behave ...All through the years we treat people on the relations we share with them : wife, Mom, dad, sister, brother, Uncle, Aunt, friend, son, daughter...whatever relation it may...but the fact is that before we share a relation with them they are individuals in their own place and we need to respect them for what they are. 

Life is too short to judge people depending on our relationship rather than knowing the actual person .We share many relationships in our life and also need to respect them to cherish memories

Life is too short to really bother about what people think ....Its important to live our life on our terms but also ensure that we donot shrug away from our responsibilities .....


Live every act fully, as if it were your last. 

GRATITUDE !!!!

Gratitude keeps us centered and wards off jealousy and negativity. 

Here are five little things we can do each day to nourish our sense of gratitude: 

1. Choose your friends wisely. If you strive to be spiritually strong, supportive, empowering, intelligent, energetic, and positive, seek those characteristics in others. 

Help your friends develop more positive traits by living those positive traits yourself. Know what kind of friends will help you nurture your soul, and set out to find some. 

2. Help your friends cultivate gratitude. Before you say anything about a friend's situation, remember that everyone's situation is unique. I've seen it happen to myself and to my friends. They'll be perfectly happy until someone tells them they're being mistreated. Suddenly, they're upset. 

Don't let your friends wield such power, and work to avoid wielding such power yourself. 

Day by day, hour by hour, make a goal to stop complaining about your life. Make a pact with your friends to cut the complaints from your conversations. 

3. Give the gift of gratitude to your children. Help your children to be satisfied with the simple things while giving them the innate power and ability to achieve whatever they want in life...by living in such a way yourself. 

4. Say "Thank You." Whom in your life do you appreciate? Let them know, whether it's your mom, your kids, your friends, your husband, your child's daycare provider or the helpful woman behind the cosmetics counter. 

A heartfelt "thank you" often does the trick. Make it a habit and your attention will suddenly turn to all the things people do for you. 

Also, write thank you notes regularly - not just after a gift exchange - and be mindful of all the ways you show your appreciation by the things you do in return. 

Another idea: Spend 15 minutes writing a letter to your children. In this note, tell them how much you love them, why you're thankful for them, and all the ways they have enriched your life. This can be something you give them now or after they have grown. 

5. Be mindful of the little things. Today, strive to be aware of all the aspects of your personal, professional, and family life for which you are thankful. 

Take a few minutes today to appreciate nature. Go for a walk and notice only those things that are beautiful. Whether you focus on the stars above, a distant mountain range, or the cottonwood tree in your backyard, try to notice the details. Give thanks for the beauty that surrounds us. 

Oprah Winfrey and Sarah Ban Breathnach, author of Simple Abundance, speak often of the importance of a Gratitude Journal, in which, at the end of each day, you record at least five things you're grateful for. 

Regardless of whether you write down these items, spend some time each day to focus on the little things in your life that make each day special. Perhaps it's your child's toothless grin. A warm home. Delicious food enjoyed with family. 

Together, let's work on focusing on what we have - not on what we don't have - and all the ways we can help one another have more gratitude for the gift of life.


Lets be grateful to everything that we have in life ... 

BETTER RELATIONSHIPS

I happen to read this article and found it interesting and needy for all of us in todays world.

Three Words That Make Relationships Better

Three-Word Phrases, can be tools to help develop every relationship. 

There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships.

The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.

~    Let me help:Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.

~  I understand you:People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many  little ways - that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.

~  I respect you:Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal.  If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends.  This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

~  I miss you:Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other “I miss you.”  This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.  Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say “I miss you.”

~  Maybe you’re right:This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument.  The implication when you say “maybe you’re right” is the humility of admitting, “maybe  I’m wrong”.  Let’s face it.  When you have an argument with someone,  all you normally do is solidify the other person’s point of view. They, or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you.  Saying “maybe you’re right” can open the door to explore the subject more.  You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the other person. 

~ Please forgive me:Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

~  I thank you:Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don’t take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of  friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

~  Count on me:A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship.  It is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating “you can count on me.”

~   I’ll be there:If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase “I’ll be there.” Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us.  We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

~  Go for it:We are all unique individuals. Don’t try to get your friends to conform to your ideals.  Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you.  God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams.  Tell them to “go for it.”

~  I love you:Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person’s deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse,  your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words: “I love you.”  Love is a choice.  You can love even when the feeling  is gone

Wish Karo.....

If You Wish

If you wish to be respected, then be ever respectful.
If you wish to be understood, then sincerely understand others.
If you wish to be appreciated, then be ever grateful.
If you wish to be loved, then give love in each moment.

If you wish to be wealthy, then act to create real value.
If you wish to learn, then take time to teach.
If you wish to climb higher, then life others up.
If you wish to be wise, then share what you know.

Whatever you wish, life will surely give it.
What you must do, though, is to truly live it.
There is so much to live for and so much to see.
You will have whatever you are willing to be